Are you wondering how you can get back together with your ex girlfriend? First of all, keep in mind that you are walking on eggshells. Feelings have already been hurt on both sides. If you’re not careful, hurt feelings may turn into broken hearts and angry words, and you’ll miss out on ever getting back together with your ex girlfriend!
In five easy steps, here are the things you need to keep in mind when planning how to get back with your ex girlfriend.
- What caused the break up? Girls do not break up with their boyfriends for no reason at all, so chances are she had a good reason, even if you don’t yet know what that reason may be. The first step in getting back together with your ex girlfriend is to understand what it was that went wrong, whether or not it was preventable, and how you can fix it to improve the future relationship.
- Was it your fault? If your girlfriend broke up with you because of something that was completely your fault, then the first thing you need to do is to let your ex girlfriend know that you understand what happened, you take ownership for your actions, and you are sorry for hurting her. It helps to explain that you will never do it again…but only if this feeling is genuine; if you are planning to become better at hiding your tracks rather than changing your behavior, perhaps you are not mature enough to be in a relationship at all.
- Continue to socialize. Even though you are trying to get back together with your ex again, keep your social life active. You shouldn’t cut yourself off from the rest of the world or lie around the house moping. Go on a couple casual dates, or at least get out of the house and enjoy hanging out with your friends. It may even work to your benefit if your ex girlfriend feels a teeny bit jealous, as long as you don’t overdo things—you don’t want her to feel you are not serious about her.
- Strike a balance. Through your behavior and actions, let your ex see that you have moved on, but at the same time, you still care for her. Striking this balance is the key to eventually rekindling the relationship. When your ex girlfriend sees that you have not completely moved on and that you still feel for her, you will appear more mature in her eyes, and equally more desirable as a potential partner.
- Work on the friendship. Put in genuine effort to become friends with your ex girlfriend again. Invite her to casual group outings, not just romantic dates (which she obviously is not in the mood for if you haven’t resolved your former problems). Listen to what she tells you and let her know she can rely on you as a friend. This will build trust and she will find it harder to cut you out of her life completely.
As your friendship with your ex girlfriend becomes stronger, you can let her know you are interested in a relationship again. Ask her why she thinks the two of you broke up in the first place. Be casual when you ask the question, rather than appearing desperate or making it obvious that you are pursuing her. Most importantly, lend a sympathetic ear to her answer so that you really understand the situation. Your ex will either say that she thinks it was a mistake to break up, or else she will say that the break up was for the better and explain why. Once you have an answer, you can proceed from there. Remember to continue to listen and ask questions, rather than arguing with her and acting angry that she doesn’t want you. Friendship is the first step to getting back together with your ex girlfriend!
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